by Carole Provenzale
Feng Shui is a healing art. It is meant to inspire, transform, help and assist out clients to achieve their goals. I don’t believe it was ever intended to instill fear, make people uncomfortable in their own homes or worry about changes they make. And yet, that is exactly what I have been seeing lately. A case in point: On a recent visit to a client I was dismayed to enter a beautiful condo unit and find complete and utter lack of attention to the home. By lack of attention, it had clearly not been cleaned in a very long time as the grime was built up on everything; the entire unit was cluttered with things lining both the furniture and couches. The kitchen went unused and it was almost impossible to step into the bedroom due to the clothes and debris all over the floor. Something had gone horribly wrong and we cleared off a space on the floor to sit and discuss her life and issues.
She was an intelligent, beautiful accomplished person who had previously been both a model and a singer in a band and was now on disability due to a recent accident. She told me that several years ago she still hadn’t found the right partner and had called a Feng Shui consultant for some help and advice on her relationship issues. The consultant pointed out problem after problem with the layout of her home, with her bathroom, with the direction of the front door - the list goes on. In short, she was told by the consultant to move, that this previously lovely condo would never support her nor would she ever have good luck while she lived there.
Flash forward to today and my visit. She had given up she said; what was the point? She did not have the money to move and truly believed there was nothing she could do to help enhance her life. Powerful and absolutely devastating words from someone she went to for advice and inspiration. Now her mindset was and had been misery. She no longer had friends over, certainly had not even opened herself up to the possibility of a relationship and was having a series of misfortunate “accidents.” She had given up on her home and her life.
Trying to change her mindset after so many years was a daunting task. I showed her all the good points in her home and gave her easy, inexpensive things she could do to change the energy, starting with cleaning up and getting rid of the clutter. I addressed each room with a positive point of view and if something wasn’t “politically” Feng Shui correct, showed her simple things to change it.
Sadly, I have been seeing this more and more in my consultations. While I truly believe in the many methods to use Feng Shui, I am always mindful to do no harm. In someone’s home or in their mind. Yet I am finding client after client who has been told their front door faced the “wrong” direction, the steps in the center of the home would mean constant health issues and everything negative while only providing their clients with expensive methods such as renovations or telling them the house will never support them at all.
I visit real estate offices quite frequently to speak on Feng Shui and Home Staging and honestly there hasn’t been one I have been in that wanted to work with a Feng Shui Consultant. Why? For one thing, Feng Shui Consultants never seem to find the “perfect” home for their client; sometimes it’s the numbers on the door, sometimes it a misplaced bathroom, sometimes there is a “negative” space and a complete area of the house is missing. Feng Shui consultants, I am told, point out only negative issues.
I am grateful that I attended classes in Feng Shui by such a wide spectrum of the very best teachers and mentors in the field who were able to provide me with a variety of inexpensive and easy to implement “cures” for all these problems. When we look at a space, we see it through what is called “Feng Shui Eyes” but these eyes can be positive in nature and instead, show a person or family how the home will support them and how to “fix” a missing piece, show them the positive aspects of the front door and how to look at Feng Shui through a positive perspective.
We were taught to be healers in every aspect of the word; we are often challenged ourselves with clients who are so hurt and worried about homes they have been told can’t be fixed, that will never support them that their lives have changed so dramatically in a downward spiral.
Look for a Feng Shui Consultant to inspire you, give you the positive, use the beautiful transcendental cures and blessings and simple and inexpensive methods to change your environment for a more beneficial flow of energy. We are, as the wonderful Pamela Laurance inspired in us every day, to be mindful, to help, to heal, to transform.
Certainly, finding a consultant who has been well trained in a variety of methods and practices from a positive point of view won’t get you “stuck” in believing you need expensive renovations or that it’s time to move. They are the ones that will be able to transform, to help and heal and inspire. The positive aspects you put into your thoughts are, ultimately, what will provide you with exactly what you are seeking in every area of your life.
Carole Provenzale has been a Certified Feng Shui Consultant since 1997 and is the Founder of Feng Shui Long Island. She provides personalized, affordable Consultations for all of Long Island, Queens and New York City and online for those at a distance. She is also a keynote speaker and a published author and works with Real Estate agents for Home Staging and Feng Shui Principles. Please visit her website at http://www.FengShuiLI.com or email her at [email protected] or call (516) 454-8107.